Why aren't people getting married anymore?（2）

what do American girls really think about marriage?

to be honest, from my experience

I would say that most of us

don't want to get married at all

but that't not to say that there aren't a lot of people here

who still want to get married

and of course everyone has their own opinions about marriage

but overall I think the trend is that

most Americans are not getting married

or they're getting married much later in life

first, I think it's really important to understand

that our dating culture is really different

and most people here will date purely out of love

and we don't really consider too much

about our partners financial status or their job

or how much property they have

and no there in no "caili" in America

usually after you're married, you'll buy house together

and combine your incomes to pay it off together

so when we're dating

we basically just think it's important

to find someone with similar values and similar life goals

but mostly we with want someone that we can fall in love with

and someone who brings joy and happiness to our day to day life

because if we're gonna spend the rest of our life with one person

it better be someone that we truly want to see every day

so why don't American girls want to get married?

there are two main reasons and the first one is that

it's super hard to find a really good guy here

a lot of American guys don't any household chores

they's not really good at taking care of the kids

and they can be extremely selfish

so for girls, after they get married

they's expected to keep doing their full time jobs

and take care of the house and do all of the childcare

so l can tell you from experience of watching my mom do this

it can get really really exhausting

in Chinese there's the phrase 重男轻女

and I think a lot of people think that America isn't this way

but in most places i would say it really is (this way)

and girls are expected to do a lot more then boys

for example

I have three brothers and I'm the only daughter

so I was expected to do a lot more than them

and before I was even 10 years old

I could cook, clean, do the dishes

mow the yard, take care of the house

and take care of my younger brothers

literally anything needed to be done around the house

I could do it

and I was expected to do it

but even to this day

I don't even think that some of my brothers

know how to do the laundry

so there are a lot of things American culture

that are really unfair for women

and in turn it's kind of given us this

negative impression of marriage

and this leads us to the second reason

that American girls don't really want. to get married anymore

which is because these days

most girls can live a very full and happy life being totally independent

more and more women are getting are a better a better education

which leads them to higher paying jobs

and being able to fully support themselves

in the past girls were expected to get married and have kids

and just live as a housewife

and if you didn't do this

it was basically socially unacceptable

and you could be ostracized from society

but now I would say

most of the girls that I know are living perfectly happy lives

being totally independent

and they have o good group of friends and family who support them

while they go study or work to support themselves

getting married is definitely not the main focus of their entire life

I think it's super important that girls are able to have this choice

to choose what they want their future to be

and while it may be the case that

most Americans don't really want to get married

there are still plenty of Americans who do get married

especially if you go to some smaller towns in America

where the cost of living is much lower

and people can have a more relaxed lifestyle

you'll be able to see more and more people getting married

and having kids

because they don't need to work much

or they can rely on one person's income if they have a really good job

so in these situations there are some women who are housewives

and there's no real negative connotation to this word

unless you say it like

"she's just a housewife"

then it can come off as really judgmental

most Americans don't really judge when someone says

they're a housewife or stay at home mom or something like that

because we know how hard it is

to take care of the whole house and to raise kids

basically on your own

some people might feel jealous or they might feel like

by just being a housewife

but those judgmental people are really just a minority

so even though a lot of American girls are

choosing not to get married recently

I would say that deep down

a lot of us still do want to get married

it's really hard to find the right person

I think marriage should be pretty simple and easy

and really romantic

as long as we have that right person

but without that person

I think it just makes life

way more difficult for a lot of women

anyway I hope this video helped you

understand more about American culture

and let me know in the comments if you share

any similar thoughts or feelings

or if you have any questions, feel free to ask

and I'll see you guys next time!

bye bys~